2nd May 2014 19:45 | LAST COMMENT 239 weeks ago
One conversation I have time and time again is whether or not I produce gay spanking movies. I had it again when I went home for Christmas and was discussing Straight Lads Spanked with my brother and he kept on referring to it as my gay website.
I tried to explain to him that it's not a gay website and I am not producing gay spanking videos but I am simply producing spanking movies. Or to be exact, mm spanking movies.
It's an interesting one when it comes to fetishes. I think in many ways having a fetish does not represent your sexuality. I know for example that there are many women who are members of the website. I am fairly certain that there are also men who identify as being straight that also enjoy mm spanking movies. If there are, maybe you could say hello here?
I also realised though that if you are searching online for mm spanking movies it is probably normal that you would put "gay spanking movies" into the search engine.
Anyway, i realise it does not matter in the big scheme of things and I personally have an issue with people feeling the need to have to fit into a category. We should all be free to enjoy whatever we like without labelling!
I think there are movies out there that very much could fit into the category of gay spanking videos, where you have two guys that are having intimate, enjoyable sexual spanking scenarios.
I'm not sure the lads on my site find the spanking scenarios at all intimate sexual or enjoyable! lol!

BRAVO!!! well said, both of you!
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I like the site and after many years seeing your preview clips I finally bought a subscription. All the guys you have acting in the videos are good. I realize the name of the site is "Straight Lads Spanked" and while for many guys that aspect I'm sure is also important, to me, it doesn't matter wether the guy getting or giving the spankings is straight, bi or gay. As long as everyone is good at what they're doing... and the action/story line is decent that's the important thing. I wouldn't bother me if you also started spanking guys that identified as bisexual or gay. And given that human sexuality is rarely black and white, but many shades of grey in between, I wouldn't be surprised if out of all these actors you've spanked here some of them, at some point in their lives probably had "experimented" with other guys... maybe not, but the odds are something I'd think it's likely.
Anyway, for me and I assume most of the viewers on this site, the main reason we are here is because we all are into seeing masculine guys spanked...



What has to be remembered is that there are strong and gender weak, for lack of a better term, in heterosexuals as well so it only makes sense there would be the same in a gay/lesbian realm of living as well. At the time I was on active duty, when we were in the "don't ask, don't tell" version of things, I served with people I would never have guessed were gay. While one or two may have had some quirks, that, if I had been really worried about I might have figured it out, the others that came out, post retirement, were a complete surprise. Still, it didn't and hasn't changed the way I feel about them. For the few with which I still maintain contact, the way we interact with each other hasn't changed from our active duty days other than a more relaxed personal posture since we are no longer supervisor/subordinate but simply friends.
One thing I will correct here, gently and with a hint of silly reproach :), is that the term effeminate has been badly applied. The intended definition is having or showing characteristics regarded as typical of a woman. Now, personally, that is actually insulting to women as well. Even in cultures that are patriarchical in nature, very few women exhibit the level of "effeminate" the word implies. Sure, they may be more submissive in nature, and by that I mean simply that the male takes the lead in things, but for the most part they are strong people. Now, the caveat here of course are those abused or hurt in some way who lack any confidence in themselves or are brought up in such an overly oppressive household that they don't know of any other way to live. When I meet people for the first time, mostly in business, I find that females meet on the same level. They both offer a firm handshake. When meeting men, however, I find, and hate, that token handshake, quick touch of the fingers, insulting. These guys have that limp wristed handshake not because they are afraid of hurting a woman but because they are showing that they feel a woman, n that particular instance, is beneath their notice. Still, I smile and return with my standard handshake and have, more than once, gotten a very surprised look and even a few comments of "that is some grip." So what is the point, I hear people saying about now :)
In any relationship, gay/lesbian, heterosexual, there is always a side that takes on more of a leader role even if the outward glance is of an equal partnership. We know that in some relationships those roles are more clearly defined and perhaps overdefined but those tend to be in individual relationships and not the general societal idea of a relationship. For some it is simply easier to take on that subordinate role.
There are extremes everywhere and I see the typical gay stereotypical behaviors as just that, extreme. Very few gays/lesbiansI know, have known or have seen in the past, exhibit overly extreme, what has been attributed to female, characteristics. Those that do, on either side, are a mystery to me; I just don't get it but I don't worry about it and move on.


The truth is, that society in most parts of the world still expects men to act a certain way. They are expected to be the strong leaders. Most societies, whether we want to believe it or not, are still patriarcal in nature. And I'm not saying that's necessarily a bad thing. I have no problem playing the gender role that nature has assigned me. But I also have no problem with people who live and act outside those assigned roles. I think everyone ought to be free to live their lives in the way that makes them happiest and fulfills them.



Love. It. There are so many dynamics and variables at play in human sexuality that to attempt to pidgin-hole anyone is ridiculous. Queer is an awesome word that describes something odd, curious, out of the ordinary... Good word.


I have a thick skin and do not offend easily. Certain terms do bother me but in general I won't react to them. I admit I have kept people from using words or terms as they realize I don't use them and many have admitted they curb the worst of things when they are around me, even though I do not and did not ask them to do so :). To me people are people. Sure, I like to see some semblance of manners and general mutual respect due basic human courtesy but for the most part I don't take exception to people unless they give me a reason to do so and even then in most cases it takes time and effort on their part to even get to that point :).

Don't get me wrong, many gay men love it too, but I think the 'kick' of spanking transcends gender barriers. I know a few straight women who love this site, and one or two that enact giving a spanking themselves, but all agree that m/m spanking action can be best due to the sheer power play involved.
People think of 'gay' in a limp-wristed way, but a good friend of mine (also a woman) once said that there's nothing more masculine than a guy bending over to take what another guy can dish out - be it punishment or, even sex.
Good point!



Many here have commented on the "punishment" aspects of the videos here, but to my mind, even if a male gets spanked by another male and he enjoys it, that doesn't make him gay. The enjoyment of spanking isn't always a sexual enjoyment. I myself, even as a straight woman who gets spanked mostly by men, don't even get much sexual satisfaction from just spanking alone (I hope that's not TMI lol). I have noticed that in some of the videos, the guys are clearly maybe not enjoying the spanking, but they don't seem to mind it that much. For me, part of the reason I enjoy the movies here on SLS is because the guys aren't into spanking like I am. It's not their "thing" so to speak.
While we do get nudity (what are sometimes referred to in spanking website circles as "beauty shots") in the videos here, I still don't think that this fact alone makes the movies sexual. I love nudity, whether male or female, just for its own sake. Don't get me wrong though. As a straight female. I do find the lads quite attractive. But if I just want to look at cute guys, I don't need SLS for that and I'm sure there are gay men out there who feel the same way. SLS fills a gap in the market for non-sexualized, very straightforward spanking videos.
I guess as an older woman, I would qualify for cougar status too! I wonder if the lads know that there are a lot of ladies on the site now and how they feel about that?














For a long time, I visited another website regularly and watched M/F sites assuming that as I was more turned on by the idea of being spanked rather than spanking someone this would be what would appeal to me most as a straight woman. Then I stumbled across a preview video of the handsome Bailey. It was the video Bailey- the humiliation and I can remember exactly how I felt watching it. Completely fixated with what was happening on the screen in front of me & mesmerised by the fact that it included a lecture, a friend watching and NO SEX- a life-like spanking site, finally!. It struck a chord with me big time. It left me very confused for a while to be honest. I couldn't understand why on earth I was so intrigued and turned on by two men in a spanking scene. Never the less, I continued to visit this site on a daily basis. I think for me the appeal is in the fact that they are such strong lads and could easily refuse in reality. (not to mention they are HOT!)
After having spent a lot of time watching the previews I became a member of this site and THIS SITE ONLY. There are many sites in which if a woman dares to comment she is bombarded with criticism from males on why they are on a 'gay' site. I find this horrifying. It does not matter whether you a LGBT or straight, spanking is a fetish, which as you rightly say Dave goes beyond the barriers of gender and sexuality. I have no idea where my fetish has come from and I have never told a partner or friend about it so this site gives me a place to embrace what I like without fear of judgement.
From my experiences on this site I would say it is most definitely not a gay site. Simply a M/M spanking site. There is nothing more erotic to me now than the site of strong, muscular, 20 something male submitting to another strong male for punishment for his behaviour.
By far the most fantastic thing about this site is it's lack of sexualising the spankings. It is exactly what it is described as about "the whole punishment." In fact I find the lead up to the spanking as erotic as the spanking itself and there are no other sites I have found that are as skilled at the lecture and other parts that make up the spanking experience that we crave to see.
I applaud you for taking something you are interested in a realising their was a gap in the market for it and I hope you continue to do so for a long time. (Just promise me you will NEVER let Andy leave haha)

Anyway, it means so much to me that Straight Lads Spanked has been a place where as a woman you have been made welcome and been able to enjoy my movies! ") Dave

As Morgan88 posted, it's impossible to explain this interest to someone who's not "into" it. I don't tell others about this


I know that having the boys spank each other is a recycled idea, but I really do love it as a plot devise. The bit with a strap was nice, too. Now, I'm not saying this to brag, but I've met and been spanked by Ian, the man who makes that particular strap. There was a longer version of that strap as well and I opted to by the longer one. Seeing an implement that I have actually felt myself added a different dimension to the video for me. Every time I see you use that strap, my own bottom tingles a bit in sympathy lol.


I know this is not a gay site (seen some of those and your site is just perfect and not remotely gay). Thanks for letting me vent.
Please keep on keeping on.
(Sir, is it possible to change my user name? Didn't intend to use email address. If you can change it, thanks for your help. If you can't change it, thanks anyway.)





So just to be clear, I'm not changing the direction of the website in any way at all. I simply brought this up as it is a topic I seem to discuss a lot in my own life when discussing the website and I thought I would throw it out there to see how it affected other people.



