Dave - Straight Lads Spanked | 16th April 2015 22:11 (248 weeks ago)

Thanks Cheryl... I appreciate that. Here is a question for you. You mention, correctly that the lads I use are not into spanking. Would you like to see movies made which involve lads that do share the spanking fetish?

uchikimatsu | 16th April 2015 23:24 (248 weeks ago)

Oh, Dave... what a loaded question... I know you direct this at Cheryl, but I would love to hear from everyone and anyone willing to share their opinion...

Ooleary | 17th April 2015 00:57 (248 weeks ago)

@chiki and Dave i think No ,i like it when the boys are embarrassed and sore and sorry and when they're kicking their legs and asking when it's going to stop,(now that's just how I feel)

uchikimatsu | 17th April 2015 03:26 (248 weeks ago)

@Orla - I love all those things too! But I don't think they preclude a model that wants to be spanked. There are those that want to be spanked because its sexy and fun and those who want to be spanked because they need to submit or want discipline, but don't consider that activity foreplay (and every shade of spanko in between.) I'd like to hear from other spankos on that subject!

Given that the site is named and features straight lads, I think it would be just this side of impossible to find a straight lad into the sexy kind that would allow a gay man to spank him. I do know, however, that there are spankos of the other variety that, because they don't consider the act sexual, would not care who did the spanking.

Dave works really hard to bring enough variety of themes, models, and storylines to keep every member happy. I think seeing someone submit to discipline willingly would be interesting. It would be a change from seeing models that begrudgingly submit for the cash. Seriously, just because someone wants to be spanked doesn't mean there wont be humiliation, pain, kicking, pleading, and protesting. I deal with this all the time. Tops and Doms, thoughts?

I'm not sure if Dave only meant the model enjoys being spanked but that nothing about the formula of an SLS film would change. In that case the audience would only know if that fact were revealed in an interview. Or if he meant the model enjoys being spanked and that would be incorporated into the story. Maybe I took the question wrong and none of this matters! LOL!

Also, I am a total idiot. I just noticed the pull-down in the lower right corner of the text box that allows us to enlarge it while typing. Over a year on the site and only now do I notice this after all my bitching about the text box size????

:::slaps own forehead::: IDIOT!

Cherylkay | 17th April 2015 04:08 (248 weeks ago)

@Dave, I just got home from work and saw your question. As to whether I would enjoy seeing a movie with a guy who likes being spanked, I would have to answer with a resounding "NO". It's the very fact that they're not spankos or professional spanking models that attracts me to your site. The embarrassment of being spanked by an older man is just what I love about your site. The fact that they do it for the money (and maybe because they know women are going to be watching) and not because they enjoy it is just the icing on the cake for me.

I have met professional spanking models on the party circuit and most of them do shoots at parties, sometimes in public rooms where other party goers can watch. Their responses are almost always rehearsed and therefor, fake. I have even seen them in the ladies room practicing their facial expressions. I would hate it if I saw a movie of yours with fake reactions and fake remorse and fake facial expressions. The fact that all of the guys are fresh and natural is what brought me to your sight. When you still had some of the interviews posted on Youtube, one of the posters complained that the interviewer was doing all the talking and I responded to that person that none of your models are professionally trained in how to talk in front of a camera. Yes, you sometimes have to ask a few of them to speak up for the camera or to keep their hands away from their mouths when they're speaking but that's part of the charm for me and I suspect a lot of others. I can't think of anything I would hate more than for one of your films to feature a professional spanking model. There's nothing wrong with it as a lot of people make a living doing that. But it's not my cuppa joe.

The spanking fetish is a complicated and individual thing. I myself love the pain of a really hard spanking or caning. The fact that you have to pay the boys because there's no way in hell they would take a hard spanking or the cane otherwise is a huge part of the attraction for me. I hope this answers your question and I appreciate that you asked it :)

Cherylkay | 17th April 2015 04:10 (248 weeks ago)

Also, didn't Bailey admit in an interview that he had a kinky side to him? I seem to recall him saying that he enjoyed bondage and blindfolds as well? But as a straight guy, he made sure he reiterated that this was with women lol.

Ooleary | 17th April 2015 04:53 (248 weeks ago)

@chiki good point about wanting to submit to discipline cos they feel bad cos of something they've done kinda like Jay asking his Dad to spank him to ease his conscience,but when i first saw Dave's question I automatically thought of sex and foreplay etc forgetting of course this site is Straight Lads Spanked,but i still think No.

uchikimatsu | 17th April 2015 11:09 (248 weeks ago)

@Cheryl - I'm terribly confused by your response here...

I don't understand why you are equating someone that wants to be spanked with "professional spanking models" who are so seasoned they have to rehearse their responses, as if the two are mutually exclusive.

I don't believe all professional spanking models want to be spanked, nor do I believe that all pretty young men that want to be spanked are jaded professionals. You assume Dave would hire someone "in the biz," yet I guarantee that for every one of those spanking models you keep meeting at parties there are 250 shy young men that desire to be spanked but have never filmed and would answer Dave's ad for the experience.

Their responses would be every bit as fresh and exciting as someone doing it for quick cash, and maybe even more interesting.

Lynne | 17th April 2015 11:48 (248 weeks ago)

Correct Chiki...:). The ones who want to experience it, have the interest, but are afraid to take that final step. Other than the filming, which adds another area of shyness, they couldn't choose a safer place, or person, for their first experience, or even a re-step into it after a bad experience or hiatus.

Aimee | 17th April 2015 11:49 (248 weeks ago)

I think it could be fun to see someone who liked being spanked. Someone into the idea of having a dom and as such comes to be disciplined for their real misdeeds. That could be a fun new angle.
I have to agree with Chiki here not everyone who likes to be spanked is a professional. There are spankos all over the place that don't film, don't go to parties and just like being spanked. They like being punished for things they have done wrong. Those type of people wouldn't be acting their reactions would be just as real as any of the lads we see on here and if anything would probably follow the pattern of the real punishment series of movie that we all love.

Aimee | 17th April 2015 12:02 (248 weeks ago)

Although I think it sounds like it could be fun, I love the site just as it is

uchikimatsu | 17th April 2015 12:14 (248 weeks ago)

hey Dave, I completely understand that SLS was founded with certain philosophies that have worked perfectly here for years. I wouldn't want you to go in a completely new direction, but I think it would be interesting to maybe see a young man that needs to submit and be spanked and have his very first experience over your knee, because you are so skilled, especially with the verbal aspect which can be just as important add the physical. It's my experience that a spanking for someone who wants to submit can still be quite a punishment. Especially on film, where as Lynne said the humiliation factor is dialed up to eleven.

I'd be interested to hear from some of the long-timers like welshboy, Lori, flashGordon, etc what they think about the concept of you filming with an actual spanko.

Dave - Straight Lads Spanked | 17th April 2015 12:16 (248 weeks ago)

I'm a bit confused too! Cheryl never said that all people who want to be spanked are therefore professional spanking models. She made a clear difference between the two by saying... ""It's the very fact that they're not spankos OR professional spanking models that attracts me to your site.""

Dave - Straight Lads Spanked | 17th April 2015 12:20 (248 weeks ago)

Oh and I noticed a typo of my own! When I posted

""Hey Chiki, I'm glad you said that as I wouldn't want to use models that are into spanking either. For me this just works best as a punishment scenario when the guys have zero interest in spanking. :)"

I meant to say...

Hey Cheryl, I'm glad you said that as I wouldn't want to use models that are into spanking either. For me this just works best as a punishment scenario when the guys have zero interest in spanking. :)

Aimee | 17th April 2015 12:23 (248 weeks ago)

I may have misunderstood... i am a little ditsy so it is entirely possible.

Aimee | 17th April 2015 12:31 (248 weeks ago)

Ok i have just read over cheryls post again and I see what you mean Dave. What I should have said then is I certainly wouldn't want to see any of those spanking models the Cheryl has described that practice and rehearse their looks and reactions etc. That would be totally wrong for this site. If you were going to do it it wiukd def need to be someone who would be natural. Though as I said above, SLS works perfectly with the recioe it uses, why mess with success? Lol i can imagine it might be strange for any of the lads or you Dave to spank someone who you knew liked it and it wasn't a "business thing" for want of a better phrase.

Aimee | 17th April 2015 12:33 (248 weeks ago)

Apologies that was a lot of typos lol

uchikimatsu | 17th April 2015 12:46 (248 weeks ago)

To me it sounds like she assumes you would hire the jaded professionals when she says she wouldn't want to see any fake responses and she loves the face that your models are fresh and natural. That, to me sounds like she is saying that men who desire to be spanked couldn't or wouldn't be fresh (first time) or natural in response (unrehearsed) which makes no sense.

Cherylkay | 17th April 2015 16:07 (248 weeks ago)

I'm happy to clear up any confusion. I responded from my own personal experiences with real, proper spankos. The vast majority of people who are spankos and who make movies tend to be pros. I suppose you could find someone, somewhere who has the spanking fetish and would be willing to make a movie. I have no experience with males in that area. I admit that professional female bottoms are my only experience.

I do tend to equate folks who make spanking videos who have a known fetish as professionals. Maybe if Dave could find a guy who just wanted to make one film to see what all the fuss was about, then I think it could work. I suppose I should say that it was those professional female bottoms with their fake, rehearsed responses that brought me to Straight Lads Spanked in the first place.

Thank you again for the question, Dave. I'm sorry about the confusion, but I did try to answer it as best I could. Maybe I shouldn't answer questions after a 15 hour work day? LOL

Cherylkay | 17th April 2015 16:14 (248 weeks ago)

Also, I know a lot of people who want to be spanked but who have no desire to have that event filmed. Most of the men I know who want to be spanked, would rather be spanked by a woman. I'm not sure how it works in the UK, maybe it's different than here in the US. To be honest, I don't know of any young man who's never been spanked before (and who's straight) who desires his first experience to be with a man, no matter how skilled he is. I think that was the point I was trying and failing to make. At any rate, I think Dave does an awesome job and has created a very, very good formula for his films.

@Dave, if you do have a desire to film with a young man who enjoys being spanked or who feels like he wants or needs a spanking for some reason, then I know you'll put the same heart and soul into it that you do all of your films and it will probably turn out brilliantly.

uchikimatsu | 17th April 2015 16:35 (248 weeks ago)

I think because we have wildly different experiences we just see things from a different perspective. I have done so many "first times" over the last 20 years I lost count 10 years ago! Yet I have never met one professional spanking model. I've been to international bdsm/leather events, but no spanko parties.

I've known lots and lots of first time spankos, but let's face it, the only reason they'd want it filmed is because they'd be getting paid. I'm wondering if that would translate any differently on film then? I still say it would be an interesting experiment, if the model want one of those jaded professionals you mentioned and just someone that desired to have an experience.

Also, it has to be considered that you grew up in and still reside in the mid-west while I grew up and reside in fort Lauderdale...Apple's and oranges! I think the attitudes are very different

Cherylkay | 17th April 2015 18:48 (248 weeks ago)

@Chiki, I'm always honored to discover that I was the first woman someone ever spanked. I have also lost count of the number of men and women who have spanked me, but I still remember that first adult spanking as if it was yesterday. It's true that you never forget your first time lol. Spanking parties can be fun and I've had a blast at them. Unfortunately, the big national parties are becoming less about playing and socializing and more about "being seen". It's really sad. However, I'm still planning on attending a big summer party in Chicago.

Interestingly, my twin, Carol and I were asked when we first joined the Chicago group if we wanted to do a video. No one had ever had twins in a video before and we would have been the first. But we were nervous at that time even about being photographed, much less filmed (I know...it seems impossible to believe if you look at my Twitter lol). I now wish we had done it, if for no other reason than to have film of my sister.

I've never been to a spanking party in Florida, although Florida Moonshine still holds at least one yearly party. I've been asked, but it's far too expensive for me. If I'm going east, I prefer Atlantic City. Still, I don't think Florida and Illinois are so vastly different. I think it's just that you and have different wants and needs when it comes to spanking. You rather enjoy the submission and punishment aspects. I'm more likely to be interested in how much pain the lad can take lol.

I think it would be very interesting for Dave to shoot a one off with a guy who likes being spanked. I used to do roleplays where I pretended getting spanked was the last thing I wanted and I think a movie would be the same thing, only filmed. I remember that first adult spanking clearly and one of the things I remember most is how nervous I was. I could literally hear my knees knocking! LOL I don't know if a first timer would seem more authentic onscreen given how great Dave is with first timers, I think a guy could do a lot worse for their first time. At any rate, I don't think Dave would have asked the question if he wasn't at least toying with the idea.

Aimee | 17th April 2015 19:11 (248 weeks ago)

I guess my point on all this is that just because you want to be spanked doesn't mean you actually enjoy the spanking. From my experience I know that people who have an interest in DD relationships want to be spanked for discipline and submission reasons rathet than because it is fun and as such still find the actual spanking bit incredibly embarrassing and painful and their reactions therefore are completely natural. If you found one of those to film it could be a great movie.

uchikimatsu | 17th April 2015 19:15 (248 weeks ago)

Oh I only mentioned geography because I've know several straight male spankos happy to be disciplined by either gender, as long as it remained non-sexual. Maybe my assumption was that since its very transient, touristy, and basically a cesspool of perverts (albeit a beautiful sunny cesspool) that attitudes were likely more....relaxed here.

uchikimatsu | 17th April 2015 19:17 (248 weeks ago)

Yes! What Aimee just said! She said perfectly what I've been struggling to articulate all day!
Thank you, kitteh!

:::falls into an exhausted crumpled heap on the floor:::

Cherylkay | 17th April 2015 19:35 (248 weeks ago)

@Aimee and Chiki, yes you're right. I know quite a few people, both men and women, who get spanked for reasons other than that they enjoy it. Some like knowing that their dom/top/master/whatever likes spanking them or they accept a spanking as punishment when they've displeased him or her. Some, who have a lot of responsibility in their everyday life. like to give up control to someone else. That's great stress relief. As I said, there are a lot of reasons why people like spanking or at least why someone who accept being spanked (even if they don't necessarily like it).

Chicago has a number of male tops who spank other men in a non-sexual way. One of them lives not far from where I lived near Hammond, IN. Most of his clientel are cross country truck drivers, believe it or not. He has tons of videos of his sessions posted to various sites. So it's not unheard of for men to spank other men without sex being part of the equation.

But I think if Dave could find a young man like Aimee describes (one who wants to be spanked for discipline and who would be really embarrassed nonetheless) it would be a pretty awesome film.

uchikimatsu | 17th April 2015 19:39 (248 weeks ago)

Well, we took the scenic route but I think we're finally in agreement! Seeing a young man that wants/needs to be spanked for discipline not necessarily pleasure by Dave in a movie would be pretty freakin awesome!

Dave - Straight Lads Spanked | 17th April 2015 22:12 (248 weeks ago)

You mean like Sebastian - Can't Deal With The Guilt?

uchikimatsu | 17th April 2015 23:53 (248 weeks ago)

Yes, but we were also wondering if you used a model that had an interest in spanking and discipline, would that translate differently onto film or would their reactions be similar to models who have no interest in these activities in their real life.

We are gunning for at least one experimental clip filmed with an actual spanko/submissive/discipline seeker.

It could be argued that Sebastian fills the role nicely, but he hasn't owned up to that.

Dave - Straight Lads Spanked | 16th April 2015 22:48 (248 weeks ago)

and should they receive 200 good spanks then Lynne? :)

Lynne | 17th April 2015 12:05 (248 weeks ago)

::grinning::...that was actually the first thing in my head but given how you do things, I think most of them have gotten that anyway..and more. :)

uchikimatsu | 16th April 2015 02:17 (248 weeks ago)

My Kitteh! You are brilliant, talented, beautiful inside and out, smart, articulate, funny, inquisitive, independent, and a wonderfull friend!
💋💋💋💋💋💋💋

Ooleary | 16th April 2015 20:24 (248 weeks ago)

What she said and a warm hug ☺

Dave - Straight Lads Spanked | 16th April 2015 22:54 (248 weeks ago)

Why thank you very much Aimee! I'm not sure I have ever been adored before, but I will happily accept mass adulation! I really appreciate your comments even though I am kinda blushing! :)

Aimee | 16th April 2015 23:24 (248 weeks ago)

Awww Chiki you are my favourite babycake 💋 love u millions and Orla warm hugs right back at youm 2 wee gems you 2 are.

You are more than welcome Dave. Don't blush :) You deserve the praise. You work hard. **hugs Dave** lol

Aimee | 16th April 2015 01:55 (248 weeks ago)

Love u Orla xxxx 😀

uchikimatsu | 16th April 2015 02:10 (248 weeks ago)

:::wraps the gorgeous voluptuous ginger hottie Orla in a warm right hug:::

Kids, don't try this at home, I'm a professional lesbian.

Ooleary | 16th April 2015 20:22 (248 weeks ago)

I love hugs and kisses Chiki xxxx right back at you

Dave - Straight Lads Spanked | 16th April 2015 22:50 (248 weeks ago)

Aww! That is really nice Ooleary. Has it really been a year? It's just lovely that you have made friends here too. xx

Dave - Straight Lads Spanked | 16th April 2015 22:29 (248 weeks ago)

Yes it does feel like a nice community Ward which is really nice and an unexpected real bonus of making these movies.

Dave - Straight Lads Spanked | 16th April 2015 22:24 (248 weeks ago)

Awww! Thanks Welshboy. I appreciate your support and all the guys love you too! :)